In "Abbot and Costello Go To Mars," the hapless duo land in New Orleans and then on Venus, populated with a bevy of beauties. Seems they never make it to Mars (a weird plot and even weirder movie title), demonstrating, perhaps, that men are not from Mars, and neither are women.
Somehow we're still stuck with the idea that men and women come from two different planets. However, it seems that when researchers look at how each gender acts - in areas as wide-ranging as empathy, math ability, sexuality, fear of success and outgoingness - they find we're all pretty much the same. There's a wide range of variation between individuals, of course, but not between genders.
So if your true love seems bewilderingly "other," what you think of as male or female qualities may not be what's causing the confusion. (It seems that same-sex couples' conflicts center on the same issues as heterosexual couples': power/authority, money and intimacy.)
To get free of your gender biases here on Earth and have a nice launch together, here are a few do's and don'ts.
- Don't start sentences with, "That's just like a man/woman ..." Do listen, pay attention and learn to empathize.
- Don't focus on what "you don't get." Do focus on what you get.
- Don't forget your goal: to have a loving relationship. Do find time to walk and to meditate together. It'll open your hearts.
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